SESSION 1 : Introduction

A: Overall view of Parenting

• Definition
• Islamic perspective.
• Objectives of Islamic parenting B: Marriage: Blessed bound
• The little Khalifah. • Significance of marriage
• Selection of spouse.
• Cursed marriage.
• Pillars of marriage.
C: The danger of Bachelorship Celibacy
• Condition of marriage.
a) False Arguments:
Religious:
• Advantages of Marriage.
Financial:
Personal:
Social:
b) Valid argument:
Qur’an:
Sunnah.
A: Overall view of Parenting

• Definition:

• NOUN:
• The rearing of a child or children, especially
the care, love, and guidance given by a
parent.
• Parental education is a newly coined expression in the
science of education. It is an educational activity governed
by a psychological reference framework that builds on the
parents' perception of child psychology. This perception
stems, on the one hand, from the conceptions and ideas
developed by parents on the child's growth, aptitudes,
capacities, needs and aspirations, and on the other, from
their educational practices vis--vis the child.
Parenting from an Islamic perspective
Islamic perspective in parenting is characterized by
its distinctiveness in the following aspects:

• Perception of the world. (temporality/ test/ game / Akhirah-

oriented world).

• Perception of the child. (fitrah/ Khalifa)

• Perception of the life’s priorities. (worship of Allah)

• Purpose of Life (article) (PPT)

• Objectives of education: (moral perfection & Satisfaction of

Allah).

• Parenting CCAC
• http://www.missionislam.com/family/civilised.htm
• http://www.missionislam.com/family/establishfamilybk.htm
• http://www.missionislam.com/family/knowledge.htm
• http://www.missionislam.com/family/parenting.htm
Little Khalifah

Allah

Worship

Serve Ummah

Skills for Ta‘mir

Reasoning/ knowledge

‘Ibadah & Akhlaq

‘Aqidah
Little Khalifah Way
Educators/ Environment

Father

Society Mother

Child

Masjid Relatives

School
Components of Human action

3 Means Efforts 2

Results Al Niyyah
4 Al Ma’al Intention 1
Marriage: The Blessed Bound Definition:

Marriage or Nikah which is commonly used in Islamic texts is legal agreement

between man and women through which both of them enjoy the rights as husband
and wife.

• Although it varies in its forms and objectives, Marriage is a universal Allah’s law in
creation (Sunnat Allah). Allah says:
• “We have created everything in pairs, that perhaps you may remember”
» [Qur’an: dhariyat/49-51].

• Marriage is a practice of the Prophets. Allah says:

• “We have surely sent messengers before you (Muhammad) and granted them wives and
offspring”
» [Ra‘d/13: 38].
•
• The messenger of Allah () said:
‫ فليتق اهلل في النصف‬، ‫ « من تزوج فقد استكمل نصف اإليمان‬: ‫ قال رسول اهلل صلى اهلل عليه وسلم‬: ‫• عن أنس بن مالك قال‬
‫ رواه الطرباين‬. ‫الباقي‬

• When a person marries, He has (by that) completed half of his faith. Let him then fear
and revere Allah in regard to the remaining half.

• When Allah grants one a righteous wife; He has helped him (by that) to preserve half of
his religion. So let him then fear Allah In the remaining half”
–
Marriage: A Serious Matter

Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger

of Allah ()has said:
• “In three matters, both sincere and
unserious acts are considered serious;
marriage, divorce, and returning (a wife
who was divorced a non-terminal divorce”
 ‫• قال هللا تعالى‪َ ” :‬وأَن ِكحُوا اأْل َ َيا َمى ِم ْن ُك ْم َوالصَّالِ ِح َ‬
‫ين ِمنْ ِع َبا ِد ُك ْم‬
‫اس ٌع َعلِي ٌم“‬ ‫َوإِ َما ِئ ُك ْم إِنْ َي ُكو ُنوا فُ َق َرا َء ي ُْغ ِن ِه ْم هَّللا ُ ِمنْ َفضْ لِ ِه َوهَّللا ُ َو ِ‬
‫• سورة النور‪.32/‬‬
‫ول‪َ :‬جاءَ ثَاَل ثَةُ َرْه ٍط إِىَل‬ ‫ك َر ِضي َي ُق ُ‬ ‫• أَنَس بن مالِ ٍ‬
‫ِ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫َِ ْ‬
‫قال رسول ‪ : ‬يا معشر الشباب من‬ ‫•‬ ‫صلَّى اللَّهم َعلَْيه َو َسلَّ َم يَ ْسأَلُو َن‬ ‫َ‬ ‫بُيُوتِ أ َْزَِو ِاج النَّيِب ِّ‬
‫استطاع منكم منكم الباءة فليتزوج‪،‬‬ ‫وها‬ ‫ُخرِب ُوا َكأَنَّ ُه ْم َت َقالُِّ َ‬
‫َع ْن عبَ َادة النَّيِب ِّ ِ‪َ ‬فلَ َّما أ ْ‬
‫فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج‪.‬‬ ‫صلَّى اللَّهم َعلَْيه َو َسلَّ َم‬ ‫َف َقالُواِ َوأَيْ َن حَنْ ُن م َن ِالنَّيِب ِّ ِ َِ‬
‫ال‬
‫َخَر قَ َ‬ ‫َّم م ْن ذَنْبه َوَما تَأ َّ‬ ‫قَ ْد غُفَر لَهُ َما َت َقِد َ‬
‫!‪“Oh Group Of Youth‬‬ ‫آخ ُر أَنَا‬ ‫ال َ‬ ‫ُصلِّي اللَّْي َل أَبَ ًدا َوقَ َ‬ ‫َح ُد ُه ْم أ ََّما أَنَا فَإيِّن ِ أ َ‬ ‫أَ‬
‫ِ‬
‫ِّساءَ‬‫آخُِر أَنَِا أَِْعتَزُل الن َ‬ ‫ال َ‬ ‫َّهَر َواَل أُفْط ُر َوقَ َ‬ ‫وم الد ْ‬ ‫َص ُ‬‫أُ‬
‫‪That Who are Able To Pay The Dower,‬‬
‫‪Let Him Marry‬‬ ‫ول اللَّه ‪ ‬إلَْيه ْم َف َق َ‬
‫ال‬ ‫فَاَل أََتَزَّو ُج أَبَ ًدا فَ َجاءَ َر ُس ُ‬
‫ِ‬ ‫أَْنتم الَّ ِ‬
‫َخ َشا ُك ْم‬ ‫ين ُق ْلتُ ْم َِك َذا َوَك َذا أ ََما َوِاللَّه إِيِّن أَل ْ‬ ‫ذ‬
‫‪It Is More Lowering To The Sight,‬‬
‫َ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ُِ‬
‫ِ‬
‫‪And More Protecting To The‬‬ ‫ُصلِّي َوأ َْرقُ ُد‬ ‫َ‬ ‫وم َوأُفْط ُر َوأ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫َص‬
‫ُ‬ ‫للَّه َوأَْت َقا ُك ْم لَهُ لَكيِّن أ‬
‫‪Character”.‬‬
‫س ِميِّن *‬ ‫ْ َ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫َ‬‫ل‬ ‫ف‬
‫َ‬ ‫يِت‬‫َّ‬
‫ن‬‫س‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ع‬ ‫ب‬ ‫غ‬‫وأََتزَّوج النِّساء فَمن ر ِ‬
‫َ َ ُ َ َ َْ َ َ َْ ُ‬
‫• البخاري‪ :‬حديث رقم‪4675 :‬‬
 Evidences
‫ني ِم ْن ِعبَ ِاد ُك ْم َوإِ َمائِ ُك ْم إِ ْن يَ ُكونُوا ُف َقَر َاء‬ ِ‫الصاحِل‬
َّ ‫و‬ ‫م‬‫ك‬ُ ِْ ‫َنكحوا اأْل َيامى‬
‫ن‬ ‫م‬ ِ ‫• وأ‬
َ َْ ََ ُ َ
.‫) النور‬32(‫يم‬ ِ‫ضلِ ِه واللَّه و ِاسع عل‬ ِ َّ ِ ِ
ٌ َ ٌ َ ُ َ ْ َ ْ ُ ْ ‫يُ ْغن‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ن‬‫م‬ ‫ه‬ ‫ل‬ ‫ال‬ ‫م‬‫ه‬
• “And marry those among you who are single,
and those who are pious among you, your male
slaves and your female slaves; if there are needy,
Allah will make them free from want out of His
Grace; and Allah is ample – Giving, knowing
and let those who cannot find a match keep
chaste until Allah makes them free from want out
of His grace.” (24-32)
‫ فإنه أغض‬،‫من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج‬
‫للبصر وأحصن للفرج‬.

• Rasulullah (PBUH) says:“Oh Group Of Youth!

That Who are Able To Pay The Dower, Let Him
Marry It Is More Lowering To The Sight, And
More Protecting To The Character”.
 ‫صلَّى‬ ‫يِب‬‫َّ‬
‫ن‬ ‫ال‬ ‫اج‬
‫ِ‬ ‫و‬ ‫َز‬ ‫أ‬ ‫وت‬‫ِ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ب‬ ‫ىَل‬‫ِ‬‫إ‬ ‫ٍ‬
‫ط‬ ‫ه‬ ‫ر‬ ‫ة‬
‫ُ‬ ‫ث‬
‫َ‬ ‫َ‬
‫اَل‬‫ث‬ ‫اء‬ ‫ج‬ ‫‪:‬‬ ‫ول‬
‫ُ‬ ‫ق‬
‫ُ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ض‬‫ِ‬ ‫ر‬ ‫ك‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫• أَنَس بن مالِ‬
‫ِّ َ‬ ‫ُُ ْ َ‬ ‫َْ‬ ‫ََ‬ ‫َ َْ َ َ َ‬
‫ُّ‬ ‫رِب‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫اللَّهم َعلَْي َ َ َ َ ْ َ َ ْ َ َ ِّ َ َّ ْ ُ َ ُ ْ َ َ َ‬
‫وها‬ ‫ل‬ ‫ا‬ ‫ق‬ ‫ت‬ ‫م‬ ‫ه‬ ‫َّ‬
‫ن‬ ‫َ‬
‫أ‬ ‫ك‬ ‫ا‬‫و‬ ‫ُخ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ا‬ ‫م‬ ‫ل‬
‫َ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫‪‬‬ ‫يِب‬‫َّ‬
‫ن‬ ‫ال‬ ‫ة‬ ‫اد‬ ‫ب‬ ‫ع‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ع‬ ‫ن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ل‬
‫ُ‬ ‫َ‬
‫أ‬ ‫س‬ ‫ي‬ ‫م‬ ‫َّ‬
‫ل‬ ‫س‬ ‫و‬ ‫ه‬
‫َّم ِم ْن‬ ‫د‬ ‫ق‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ا‬ ‫م‬ ‫ه‬ ‫ل‬ ‫ر‬‫ف‬‫ِ‬ ‫غ‬ ‫د‬ ‫ق‬ ‫م‬ ‫َّ‬
‫ل‬ ‫س‬ ‫و‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ه‬ ‫ي‬‫ل‬ ‫ع‬ ‫هم‬ ‫َّ‬
‫ل‬ ‫ال‬ ‫ى‬ ‫َّ‬
‫ل‬ ‫ص‬ ‫يِب‬ ‫ِ‬
‫َ ْ َ َ َ ْ َ ُ َ ََ َ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫َف َقالُوا َوأَيْ َن حَنْ ُن َ ِّ َ‬
‫َّ‬
‫ن‬ ‫ال‬ ‫ن‬ ‫م‬
‫وم‬ ‫َص‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ا‬ ‫َ‬‫ن‬ ‫َ‬‫أ‬ ‫ر‬ ‫آخ‬ ‫ال‬
‫َ‬ ‫ق‬
‫َ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ا‬ ‫د‬
‫ً‬ ‫َب‬‫أ‬ ‫ل‬ ‫ي‬‫َّ‬
‫ل‬ ‫ال‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ِّ‬
‫ل‬ ‫ُص‬ ‫أ‬ ‫يِّن‬ ‫ِ‬
‫إ‬‫َ‬‫ف‬ ‫ا‬ ‫َ‬‫ن‬‫َ‬
‫أ‬ ‫ا‬ ‫َم‬
‫َّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫م‬ ‫ه‬ ‫د‬
‫ُ‬ ‫َح‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ال‬
‫َ‬ ‫ق‬
‫َ‬ ‫ر‬ ‫َخ‬
‫َّ‬ ‫أ‬‫َ‬‫ت‬ ‫ا‬ ‫م‬ ‫و‬ ‫َذنْبِ ِ‬
‫ه‬
‫ُُ‬ ‫َُ‬ ‫َ َْ َ َ‬ ‫َ ُْ‬ ‫ََ َ‬
‫ول اللَّ ِه‬ ‫ِّساءَ فَاَل أََتَزَّو ُج أَبَ ًدا فَ َجاءَ َر ُس ُ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ال‬ ‫ل‬ ‫ُ‬‫ز‬‫آخر أَنَا أ َْعتَ ِ‬
‫ُ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ال‬
‫َ‬ ‫ق‬
‫َ‬‫و‬‫َ‬ ‫ر‬‫ُ‬
‫ِ‬
‫ط‬ ‫ف‬
‫ْ‬ ‫ُ‬
‫أ‬ ‫و‬
‫اَل‬‫َ‬ ‫ر‬‫َ‬ ‫َّه‬
‫ْ‬ ‫الد‬
‫َخ َشا ُك ْم لِلَّ ِه َوأَْت َقا ُك ْم‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫أَل‬ ‫يِّن‬‫ِ‬
‫إ‬ ‫ال أَْنتُم الَّ ِذين ُق ْلتُم َك َذا وَك َذا أَما واللَّ ِ‬
‫ه‬ ‫ُ َ ْ َ َ َ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ق‬
‫َ‬ ‫ف‬
‫َ‬ ‫م‬‫ْ‬
‫ِ‬
‫ه‬ ‫ي‬
‫ْ‬‫َ‬‫ل‬‫‪ ‬إِ‬
‫ب َع ْن ُسنَّيِت‬ ‫غ‬‫لَه لَ ِكيِّن أَصوم وأُفْ ِطر وأُصلِّي وأَرقُ ُد وأََتزَّوج النِّساء فَمن ر ِ‬
‫ُ َُ ُ َ َ َْ َ َ ُ َ َ َْ َ َ‬ ‫ُ‬
‫س ِميِّن *‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ي‬
‫ْ‬ ‫ل‬
‫َ‬ ‫ف‬
‫َ‬
‫البخاري‪ :‬حديث رقم‪4675 :‬‬ ‫»‬
• Once three people came to the blessed wives of the
Prophet to ask regarding his worship. When they
were informed they found it to be less than expected
and said how can we compare to the Prophet , his past
and future sins are forgiven. Then one of them said, “I
will pray all night forever.” The other one said, “I will
fast forever.” The third said, “I will stay away from
women and never get married.” When the Prophet
heard this, he said, “By Allah I am more fearful of
Allah, yet I fast and don't fast, I pray and sleep and
marry women, Nikah is from my Sunnah, whoever
turns away from my Sunnah is not from me.”
(Bukhari)
 Advantages of Marriage in Islam

Individual Level

• Protection of faith & religion.

• Protection of chastity.
• Enjoying love, mercy & security.
• Lawful fulfillment of the desires.
• Pleasurable way of increasing doing good deeds.
• Living balanced & harmonious life.
• Deserving Allah’s help.
• Gaining a lasting relationship (extends to Akhirah)
Social Level
• Protecting and ensuring the continuity of human race until its
term.
• Making and keeping kinship ties.
• Protecting society from moral degeneracy.
• Safeguarding society from natural disasters.
• Protecting society against diseases.
• Establishment a familial environment.
• Increasing the population of Muslim Ummah.
•Marriage Purpose and Obligation.htm
Selection of the Spouse

• In Islam, man has been given

some choices regarding
marriage. “whoever pleases
you among women”, however,
some condition found in Qur’an
& Sunnah are required to be
fulfilled in the sake of
establishing an ideal marriage.

Man’s Qawwamah
 Criteria Of Selection

1. Religion /Faith righteousness):

• In Islam the object of marriage is not merely sexual
enjoyment, but is also the formation of a healthy family
atmosphere to provide the husband and wife live within
mutual love and understanding,
• A good Muslim must chose a women who can help him
to prepare himself for Akhirah.
:‫ تنكح امرأة ألربع‬:  ‫قال رسول هللا‬ •
“‫ تربت يداك‬،‫ فاظفر بذات الدين‬،‫لمالها ولحسبها ولجمالها ولدينها‬ •

2. Morality/ Good character:

• “there are three individuals that, when they supplicate to Allah,
their supplication us not answered: a man who has a women of
bad character and he does not divorce here, a man to whom
another man owes money and he does not have a witnesses
over him, and a man who gives money to a weak-minded person”
3. Financial Competence
A Muslim man / a husband has to provide
means of living to his wife and children.
Hence, it is essential that he should have
enough means beforehand to discharge
this responsibility.

4. Compatibility
Compatibility and similarity of ideas and ambition of the
husband and wife is one of the most effective factors in
establishing a successful marriage. With compatibility
there is little chance that any serious differences will arise
between them.

Rasul Allah  said: “Make a good choice for your

sperm (off springs) marry those who are
compatible, and get married to them”.
5- Virgin/ Bearer of children/ Loving:
These are not conditions but they recommended quality
contributing to a successful marriage.
Rasul Allah  said: “Marry virgins, because they have
sweeter tongue, more fertile wombs, and more satisfied
with a little of wealth”
Rasul Allah  said “Marry a woman who is loving and
can bear children for I will boast of your number on the
day of resurrection”

6- Beauty, wealth and prestige..

These can be seen as secondary temporary
motivation which may help people to attract people
each other for the purpose of marriage. However, a
good Muslim/ Muslimah should not relay in his/her
perception of marriage and family from benefits
which may come out these factors.

Islam Marriage 6 Etiquettes of Seeking a Spouse.htm

 Legal and Illegal Means to Know the Spouse

• There is no doubt that it is essential to

make enough investigations about a
prospective husband or wife to ensure that
he or she is fit in most of the aspects to
conclude a strong ever – lasting contract.
• However, useful and reasonable
investigations should not be mixed up with
the wanton custom of courtship. Such
unrestrained intimacy which people prefer
to name it differently, it is not allowed in
Islam.
 ‫‪Salat al-Istikharah‬‬
‫‪Seeking help to make a good decision through relinquishing one’s choice to Allah.‬‬

‫ك‬ ‫فضلِ‬ ‫ن‬ ‫م‬‫ِ‬ ‫ك‬ ‫ل‬

‫ُ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫أس‬ ‫و‬ ‫‪،‬‬ ‫ك‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ت‬ ‫ر‬ ‫د‬‫ْ‬ ‫ق‬
‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ب‬ ‫ك‬‫َ‬ ‫ر‬ ‫ِ‬
‫د‬ ‫ق‬‫ْ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫أس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ك‬ ‫ِ‬
‫م‬ ‫ل‬‫ْ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ع‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ب‬ ‫ك‬‫َ‬ ‫ري‬ ‫خ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫أس‬ ‫يِّن‬ ‫إ‬ ‫م‬
‫َّ‬ ‫له‬ ‫الَّ‬
‫َ َ َ ْ َ ْ ْ َ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫ُ‬
‫ِ‬
‫ت َعاَّل ُم الْغُيُوب‪.‬‬ ‫ن‬
‫ْ‬
‫ُ َ َ‬‫أ‬ ‫و‬ ‫‪،‬‬‫م‬ ‫ل‬
‫َ‬ ‫أع‬
‫ْ‬ ‫ال‬ ‫و‬ ‫م‬ ‫ل‬
‫َ‬ ‫ع‬ ‫ت‬
‫َ‬ ‫و‬ ‫‪،‬‬ ‫ر‬ ‫د‬ ‫ق‬
‫ْ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ال‬ ‫و‬ ‫ر‬ ‫د‬ ‫ق‬‫ْ‬ ‫ت‬
‫َ‬ ‫ك‬‫َ‬ ‫َّ‬
‫ن‬ ‫إ‬ ‫ف‬
‫َ‬ ‫‪،‬‬ ‫م‬‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫الْ َعظي‬
‫ُ َ ْ َُ‬ ‫َُ‬
‫وعاقِبَ ِة‬
‫َ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أن [ه َذا اأْل مر] خير يل يِف ِدي ِين ومع ِ‬
‫اش‬ ‫ُ َ ىِلَ‬ ‫ٌ‬ ‫َِْ ِ ِ َ ْ‬ ‫َّ‬ ‫لم‬
‫ُ‬ ‫ع‬‫ْ‬ ‫ت‬
‫َ‬ ‫ت‬‫َ‬ ‫ن‬
‫ْ‬ ‫ك‬
‫ُ‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫إ‬ ‫م‬
‫َّ‬ ‫ُ‬‫هَّل‬‫ا‬
‫ار ْك ىل‬ ‫ْأم ِري ‪ْ -‬أو قَ َال َعا ِجل ْأم ِرى وآجله ‪-‬فاقْ ُد ْرهُ ىل ويَ ِّس ْرهُ مُثَّ بَ ِ‬
‫اشى ِوعاقِبةِ‬ ‫أن [ه َذاَ األمر] َشٌّر ىل ىف ِدَيىِن ومع ِ‬ ‫َّ‬ ‫لم‬ ‫ع‬ ‫ت‬
‫َ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ن‬
‫ْ‬ ‫ك‬
‫ف َ ْ ُ‬‫ن‬ ‫إ‬ ‫و‬ ‫؛‬ ‫ِ‬
‫يه‬ ‫ِ‬
‫َ َ َ ىِل َ َ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫َ‬
‫اصرفْ ِىن َعْنهُ‪َ ،‬وقْ ُد ْر اخْل ْيَر‬ ‫اج ِل اْْمرى َوآ ِجلِ ِه‪ ،‬فَ ِ‬ ‫أم ِرى‪ ،‬أو قَاَ َل ىِف ع ِ‬
‫َ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫ْ‬
‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ث كا َن مُثّ ْارضىِن بِه“‬ ‫َحْي ُ‬
• (O Allah, Behold I ask You the good through Your
Knowledge, and ability through Your Power, and beg (Your
Favour) out of Your infinite Bounty. For surely You have
Power; I have none. You know all; I know not. You are the
Great Knower of all things.
O Allah! If in Your Knowledge [this matter] be good for my
faith (Deen), for my livelihood, and for the consequences of
my affairs, then ordain it for me, and make it easy for me,
and bless me therein. But if in Your Knowledge, [this
matter] be bad for my faith (Deen) for my livelihood, and
for the consequences of my affairs, then turn it away from
me, and turn me away therefrom, and ordain for me the
good wherever it be, and cause me to be pleased therewith.)
 Basic Elements of Marriage

A Conditions:
• Bridegroom’s & bride’s eligibility for that marriage . ْ َ‫ ”َأ‬:‫وقال هللا تعالى‬
‫ش ِهدُوا َذ َوى َعدْ ٍل ِم ْن ُك ْم‬
• Bridegroom’s consent. )2 :‫ش َهادَ َة هَّلِل ِ“ (الطالق‬
َّ ‫َوأَقِي ُموا ال‬
• Bride’s permission.
• The Wali (father/close relative/ Imam) presence or )( ‫قال رسول هللا‬
approval.
• The Presence of at least two witnesses. “‫”ال نكاح إال بولي وشاهدين‬

َّ‫ص ُد َقا ِت ِهن‬

َ ‫سا َء‬ َ ‫”وآ ُتوا ال ِّن‬
َ :‫قال هللا تعالى‬ B Requirements:
‫سا‬ً ‫ش ْي ٍء ِم ْن ُه َن ْف‬َ ْ‫ن ِْح َل ًة َفإِنْ طِ ْبنَ َل ُك ْم َعن‬
• The dowry (Mahr).
“‫َف ُكلُوهُ َهنِي ًئا َم ِري ًئا‬
'And give the women (on
marriage) their mahr as a (nikah) C Pillars:
free gift" • The offering (Ijab).
• The acceptance (Qabul).

Parenting Session 2
D Optional Elements:
• The Conditions (Shurut).
 The Way Marriage is Contracted
• No specific ceremony is prescribed for
marriage. In principle it has been stressed that
marriage should take place publicly. Other
members of society should know of this
development, preferably in a way that has
been adopted by the society as its usage ('urf)
Normally the Nikah (contract of marriage)
takes place in a social gathering where
members of both the families and other friends
and relatives gather. Nikah can be performed
by any person. Usually in Muslim society
there are persons known as Qadi who
discharge this responsibility.
• In the Nikah-sermon they recite from the
Quran and the Sunnah and invite the spouses
to a life of God-consciousness, purity, mutual
love and loyalty and social responsibility. Then
the marriage is contracted wherein ijab
(proposal) and QubuI (acceptance) are made
before the witnesses. After the Nikah the bride
moves to the bridegroom's house and both
begin this new chapter of their life.
• After the consummation of the
marriage, the bridegroom holds a
feast for the relatives and friends.
The real purpose of these
gatherings and feasts is to make
the event a social function and to let
the society know of it and
participate in it. The Prophet has
recommended the people to hold
these celebrations with simplicity
and to share each others joy.
• He said:
• "The best wedding is that upon which the
least trouble and expense is bestowed."55
And that:
 ‫ي‬
‫ " شر الطعام طعام الوليمة‬: ‫ قال رسول اهلل صلى اهلل عليه وسلم‬: ‫• وعن أبي هريرة قال‬
" ‫يدعى لها األغنياء ويترك الفقراء ومن ترك الدعوة فقد عصى اهلل ورسوله‬
‫• رواه البخاري‬

• "The worst of feasts are those marriage-feasts to

which the rich are invited and the poor left out. And
he who refuses to accept an invitation to a marriage
feast verily disobeys God and His Prophet.