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Conflict Management
Dealing with Difficult People/Issues
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Why?
Conflict is inherent in our environment. Conflict is inevitable. The issue is how to effectively manage it. It is estimated that over 65% of performance problems result NOT from employee deficiencies in job knowledge and skills, but rather from relationship problems between competent, skilled employees. A classic management study determined that 25% of the typical managers time is spent responding to conflict. That figure rises to 30% for front line supervisors.
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Todays Objectives
Identify sources of conflict. Introduce participants to the levels of conflict. Identify styles of conflict Complete a self-assessment to determine your natural style for dealing with conflict. Practice the C.L.A.S.S. model of conflict.
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Definition of Conflict
Conflict is defined as the process which begins when we perceive that someone has negatively affected, or is about to negatively affect, something we care about. The more deeply we care about something, the more intense the conflict.
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Sources of Conflict
Structures/systems that are in place where there is the opportunity for differences. Procedures, policies, available resources, organizational structure (environmental issues).
Environmental Issues
Combined
Interpersonal Issues
Interpersonal issues include personalities, styles, ego needs, work habits, and values.
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Levels Of Conflict
Individuals move from the rational to the emotional. Communication is strained, there is anger and tension.
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A Normal Irritation A normal irritation comes from the flow of life and our interactions with others. These are personal differences but they are not of the intensity that alienate people from one another. If there is any anger, it passes quickly. People move on and normal working relationships are re-established. __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ Pushing the Emotional Envelope Up to this point differences have been handled logically, with some emotion. Now, communication is strained. The level of patience and trust people have with one another is being displaced with anger and tension. Logic has given way to emotions. Personal agendas are taking precedence over the collective good. __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ Moving Outside the Acceptable At this point, there is verbal hostility and serious potential for physical conflict. The parties involved have become adversaries. Things that are said and done create a negative emotional history that defines future contact. __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ __________________________________________________ 8
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Empathy for the positions of others. The ability to reflect and learn from personal experience. The ability to ask open ended questions to build understanding. The ability to separate the subject from the emotions. The ability to frame the conflict so that participants are not getting stuck on rigid agendas.
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Thomas-Kilman Conflict Mode Instrument. Self-assessment to determine your natural conflict management style.
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Avoiding ignores or withdraws from the conflict. Accommodating agrees to play down the situation. Relationship is important, the issue is not. Compromising looks for solutions in which both parties get something. Relationship is very important. Meeting halfway. Competing aggressive, vigorously defends position. Little concern for people or relationship. Collaborating assertive and cooperative. Considers the problem to be mutual. Favors working together.
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Competing
Collaborating
Compromising
Avoiding
Accommodating
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Collaborating
Compromising
Avoiding
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Boundaries clarify expectations: Understanding our roles & responsibilities How we are together What can and cannot be said Boundaries establish patterns of behavior that define quality of communication.
Healthy boundaries are flexible and dynamic they allow people to change.
Boundaries present a barometer for personal agendas.
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Boundaries
Rigid Flexible
Rigid boundaries put people into a box that works against individual/development change. Flexible boundaries recognize the need for structure but also recognize the need to accept change.
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Stimulus
Response
TIME
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History of Conflict
Person Person: Situation Situation:
Person:
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Person:
Situation:
Common Themes:
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C.L.A.S.S. Model
Model of How To manage difficult people/issues.
C alm down
L ower your voice A sk questions S eek understanding S et the stage (follow up)
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C.L.A.S.S.
C alm down
Time to choose a correct response. Send a different brain message. Settle down, not fire up. De-escalates situation. Send a different message to the brain.
A sk questions
Find out additional information. Active listening, dont interrupt, make good eye contact, use positive body language. Listen for answers.
Walk a mile in their shoes. What is their viewpoint? Why do they feel that way? Where is the common ground? Avoid the fire ring effect. Forgive people. Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
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S eek understanding
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What can be done: After the domineering team member speaks, get other reactions. Use smaller groups for discussion. Avoid eye contact with domineering member. Suggest to the person (in private) that they help involve others.
What not to do: Dont confront or take on the domineering member.
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What can be done: Ask others if they agree with the negative members; discover how extensive these beliefs are. Involve this person as a recorder. Discuss in private the persons concern.
What not to do: Do not take the person on. Do not get caught up in emotion.
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