Be Proactive

Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

Eng. Mohamed Aboud

Past EGYPT GOLD Chair ASTF Business Development Manager

M_aboud@ieee.org Maboud@astf.net

First Key of Success

The first key of success is believing in the necessity of change. People who do not have the ability or the desire to change through the investment in the their own characters are far from being named truly successful.
What changes do you think will take place?

Second Key of Success

The second key of success is having a very clear goal in your mind. An overwhelming target surrounding ones life. This goal or target should express your sense of purpose and meaning in life.
What goals are there in your lives?

Kinds of People

Ineffective : Those have no goals in life & dont change themselves accordingly. Effective : Those have goals in life and try to accomplish them. Highly effective : Those are the people who master the 7 habits in their true meaning.
Effectiveness here is treated as equally as success

Signs of Success

1- To feel an inner relief and comfort in yourself. 2- To have a balanced social relations with those around you. 3- To have a great achievement.

Steps of Success

The Seven Habits An Overview

Our character is a composite of our habits Habits can be learned and unlearned Habits defined:
Knowledge

Habits
Skills Desire

7- Renewal

Part 1: Private Victory

7- Renewal

Are you a proactive person?

You are responsible for your behavior and the choices you make in life.
You must accept this responsibility, and respond to life according to your values and not your feelings. Nothing can change unless you want to change from the inside.This inside-out approach is what you must experience first with yourself by focusing on your circle of influence.

Reactive Behavior

Reactive people allow outside influences (moods, feelings, or circumstances) to control their behavior.

Stimulus

Response

Proactive Behavior

Proactive people use the margin of freedom to make choices that best apply their values. Their freedom to choose expands as they wisely use the space between stimulus and response
Stimulus
Freedom to choose according to values

Response

Focusing on the Circle of Influence

Circle of Influence: ()
A persons Circle of Influence includes those things he or she can affect directly.

Circle of Concern: ()
A persons Circle of Concern comprises all matters about which he or she cares.

Circle of Concern Circle of Influence

Focusing on the Circle of Influence

Reactive Focus
Circle of Concern

Proactive Focus
Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence

Circle of Influence

Stimulus

Freedom

Response

to
Choose

Selfawareness

Imagination

Conscience

Independent Will

The Proactive Model

Circle of Circle of Circle of Influence Concern Concern Reactive Focus Negative energy reduces COI Proactive Focus Positive energy enlarges COI Circle of Influence

Interdependence
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

6- Synergize

Public Victory
7- Sharpen the Saw 4- Think Win/Win

Independence
3- Put First Things First

Private Victory
1- Be Proactive 2- Begin with the End in Mind

Dependence

Begin with the End in Mind

(Principles of Personal Leadership)

Begin today with the image, picture or paradigm of the end of your life as your frame of reference Start with a clear understanding of destination All things are created twice

First creation (mental) Second creation (physical)

Measure twice, cut once (plan) Do you have a mission statement?

Interdependence
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

6- Synergize

Public Victory
7- Sharpen the Saw 4- Think Win/Win

Independence
3- Put First Things First

Private Victory
1- Be Proactive 2- Begin with the End in Mind

Dependence

Put First Things First

(Principles of Personal Management)

Emergence of Habits 1 and 2 Exercise of independent will Effective self-management A good disciple of your values Address questions in life and time mgmt. Organize and execute around priorities

Urgent I
Crises Deadline-driven projects

Not Urgent

The Time Management Matrix

Important Not Important

II
Relationship building Planning Preventative maintenance

III
Some calls, meetings, mail Popular activities

IV
Time wasters Pleasant activities

Part 1: Public Victory

Interdependence
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

6- Synergize

Public Victory
7- Sharpen the Saw 4- Think Win/Win

Independence
3- Put First Things First

Private Victory
1- Be Proactive 2- Begin with the End in Mind

Dependence

Think Win/Win
(Principles of Inter-personal Leadership)

Six paradigms of human interaction:

Win/Win Win/Lose Lose/Win Lose/Lose Win Win/Win or No Deal

Interdependence
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

6- Synergize

Public Victory
7- Sharpen the Saw 4- Think Win/Win

Independence
3- Put First Things First

Private Victory
1- Be Proactive 2- Begin with the End in Mind

Dependence

Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood (Principles of Empathetic Communication)

Seek to Understand

Diagnose before prescribing Understand before influencing We listen at one of four levels:

Ignoring, pretending, selecting and attentive

Fifth level: empathetic Listen with your ears, eyes and heart Listen for feeling and meaning

Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

Seek To Be Understood

Equally critical as seeking to understand Essence

Ethos Pathos Logos

Interdependence
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

6- Synergize

Public Victory
7- Sharpen the Saw 4- Think Win/Win

Independence
3- Put First Things First

Private Victory
1- Be Proactive 2- Begin with the End in Mind

Dependence

Synergize (Principles of Creative Cooperation)

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts The true test of all other habits Unleashes the greatest powers within people Essence is to value difference

Mental, emotional and physical

Search for the third alternative

Interdependence
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

6- Synergize

Public Victory
7- Sharpen the Saw 4- Think Win/Win

Independence
3- Put First Things First

Private Victory
1- Be Proactive 2- Begin with the End in Mind

Dependence

Sharpen The Saw (Principles of Balanced Self-renewal)

PHYSICAL
Exercise Nutrition

MENTAL
Reading Organizing Planning

Stress Mgmt.

SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL
Service Empathy Synergy

SPIRITUAL
Prayer Value Commitment Study

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

A Personal Note
The source of correct principles? He who creates He who provides He who teacheth by the pen, teacheth man that which he knew not

He who is ALLAH