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Learning Objectives
1. Identify how style impacts behaviors, 2. Learn approaches for dealing with divergent styles
People
Maybe Options
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Adapted from Dealing With People You Cant Stand, Dr. Rick Brinkman & Dr. Rick Kirschner
Task Focus
Passive
Normal Zone
People Focus
Aggressive
People Who Must Get Along -Approval-Seeking Yes person Maybe person Nothing person
People Who Must Get Appreciated -Attention Seeking Grenade Sniper Think-they-know-it-all
Essential Skills
Neutralizing
Any action that neutralizes negative behavior in order to meet them where they are and move to common ground
Redirecting
Any behavior that changes the direction of an interaction. Neutralizing precedes redirecting.
Neutralizing
Neutralize with body and facial expressions Neutralize vocally with volume and speed Dont Engage -- Probe! Listen to understand -- it is not mine or theirs
Empathize Backtrack Clarify Summarize what youve heard Confirm to make sure you got it right
Redirecting
Identify positive intent
Their point is valid Apply Positive Intent to
Getting the job done Getting the job done right Getting along with others Getting appreciation
Speak to be Understood
Assertion vs. Aggression -- monitor your tone of voice State your intention Tactfully control interruptions Tell your truth
Use I language Be specific about the problem behavior (impact) Help them understand how their behavior is self defeating Suggest new behaviors or options
Stay flexible --explore options -- question before defending Reframe instead of rebut
Contact information
Pete Swanson Pswanson@csradr.com 703.818.1740
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