Raise your hand

If youre a bully
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CLASS GOALS:

WHO is affected?

WHAT are some WHEN does effective strategies? joking become bullying?

WHO is affected?
The BULLY The TARGET The BYSTANDER(S)

The BULLY is the person who ABUSES POWER over others

The TARGET is the person who FEELS bullied

The BYSTANDERS are the people who WITNESS the act

Out of the three, who has the most power

BYSTANDERS

Only JOKING Or BULLYING?

INTENTION TO CAUSE DISTRESS FREQUENCY IMBALANCE
OF THE ACT OF POWER

INTENTION
DO YOU FIND PLEASURE IN TAUNTING AND CAUSING DISTRESS DOES THE TARGET EXPERIENCE A DIFFERENT FEELING THAN YOU?

FREQUENCY
HOW OFTEN IS THE TARGET ATTACKED WHEN DOES THE TARGET FEEL IT IS TOO MUCH?

POWER IMBALANCE
DOES THE BULLY HAVE AN UNFAIR ADVANTAGE DOES THE TARGET HAVE AN UNFAIR DISADVANTAGE?

Four KINDS of BULLYING:

PHYSICAL VERBAL RELATIONAL CYBER

PHYSICAL
PUSHING HITTING UNWANTE D TOUCHING THROWIN G OBJECTS STARING

TRIPPING

CROWDING

SPITTING BODY LANGUAG E

L.E.P.
LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE
DID YOU KNOW according to Texas Law Assault is defined as: Causing bodily injury to another (Class A misdemeanor) Threatens another with imminent bodily injury (Class C misdemeanor) Physical contact with another if contact is regarded as offensive of provocative (Class C misdemeanor)

VERBAL
THREATS

TAUNTING NAME CALLING

RACIST SEXIST COMMENT COMMENTS S DISRESPECTFUL COMMENTS CRUEL JOKES

RELATIONAL
EXCLUSIO N CLIQUES HARASSMEN T LAUGHING RUMORS AND GOSSIP POINTING ROLLIN G EYES BLOGGING CYBER HARASSMEN T

CYBER
EXCLUSIO N THREATS MEAN TRUTHFULNESS RUMORS GOSSIP INSTANT MESSAGIN G CYBER HARASSMEN T

TEXT MESSAGIN G BLOGGING

L.E.P.
LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE
DID YOU KNOW according to PC 42.07 Harassment is defined as: With intent to harass, annoy, alarm, abuse, torment, or embarrass another a person initiates communication by telephone, in writing or electronic communication This includes obscenities, threats, calling and hanging up, falsely reporting that someone else has suffered an injury or death.

BULLY PHYSICAL

TARGET

BYSTANDER

pushing, hitting, intimidating by towering over, facial, gestures, spitting, crowding

withdrawn, submissive, cut, cowering, bruise, bleeding, retaliate

walk away, pretend it's not happening, laugh, join in, encourage, stand next to target, get help

VERBAL

laughing, tone of voice, put downs,threats, taunting, cruel jokes angry, excited, laughing, cruel, exclusion, rolling eyes, gossip
rumors, gossip,mean truth, prank calls, blogging, threats, IM, texts..

quiet, crying, tone of voices, nervous laughter, yell back embarrassed, insecure, humiliation, fear, shame, stop going to school, exclusion
surprised, shocked, confused, physical illness, betrayed, avoidance

applaud, whisper, encourage, say "stop," defend target, listen fearful, insecure, disgusted, excited, ashamed,caught in the middle, supportive
continues the gossip, laughs, ignores, says "stop, chooses not to IM...

RELATIONAL

CYBER

THINGS TO DO: Do NOT cheer for the fight Do NOT ignore the situation DO tell an adult DO say something to the bully DO challenge the bullys motives
THINGS TO SAY: Come on, this isnt worth the trouble Theres a better way to handle this Youre better than this. Be nice Being a bully isnt cool Leave him/her alone Stop. Thats Rude Thats not Funny

BYSTANDER

STRATEGIES

THINGS TO DO: Know your motives Use your popularity to build up weak targets Use your strength to help weak targets Use your humor to befriend weak targets THINGS TO THINK ABOUT: Is my intention to cause distress? How often do I tease this person? Do I have an unfair advantage? Is the person Im attacking an unfair target? How does the target feel?

BULLY

STRATEGIES

PREVENTION: Fake it til you make it Make eye contact Be friendly Take a joke laugh at yourself Have good posture Use a firm voice

PROTECTION: Avoid the DANGER ZONES Stay with friends or groups Walk away from the fight Dont give up Practice what to say Dont over react Stay calm Dont show your tears Tell a trusted adult

SURVIVOR

STRATEGIES

MORE SURVIVOR

STRATEGIES
PREPARATION: Practice what to say Its okay. Say whatever you want it doesnt bother me. Who are you again? Whatever. Anything else? Youre repeating yourself. She noticed my ears (pick feature) are big (pick adjective) Great eyesight. Help the bully with his observations

REMEMBER: ACT confident Stay calm Dont show your tears Laugh along Change the subject

SURVIVOR

SECRETS

BULLY SURVIVORS UNDERSTAND THE FOLLOWING: Bullying happens almost everywhere and to almost everyone at some point in their lives Bullies like audiences Bystanders usually do not agree with the bully, but they may not know what to do Survivors concentrate on what THEY can do to improve, not what the bully should do Being a bully does not make a person more successful in life often it makes them less successful Stay with others there is safety in numbers Try out of school activities like club sports, etc

L.E.P.
LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE
WHAT IS SELF DEFENSE AND WHEN IS IT ALLOWED?

Target did NOT provoke the fight No possible escape routes (youre cornered) Imminent fear of injury to self or innocent others Only MINIMUM force required to stop bully is

QUESTION AND ANSWER